The Blog Is Back.

Hi, hope you've been well. I'm back.

You may have noticed the website looks slightly different than the last time you were on here, and that's intentional. More on that shortly. For a quick recap, I started this blog in 2014 because I had questions about adulthood that nobody seemed willing to answer honestly. Plus, it was therapeutic to get my 9999 thoughts out of my brain and on paper to organize them in some manner.

Over the years, I wrote about careers, relationships, anxiety, ambition, failure, friendship, identity, and all the other things that don't come with an instruction manual. Somewhere along the way, hundreds of people -- maybe even thousands -- found those essays and reminded me that none of us is figuring this out alone. Then life happened. Work got busier. Other priorities took over. The writing slowed down.

But the conversations with Isa, my friends, and family about these topics never really stopped.

Over the past year, I've found myself coming back to the same realization that made me start this blog in the first place: adulthood doesn't get easier because you get older. The tools you need to equip yourself with evolve. The questions just change:

• How do you deal with burnout after building the career you always wanted?
• What happens when relationships end, careers stall, parents get older, friendships evolve, or your definition of success no longer fits?
• How do you rebuild after life forces you to start over?

Those are the kinds of questions I want this site to explore.

So I've rebuilt everything from the ground up. The essays are now organized by the parts of life they speak to, making it easier to find something relevant whether you're navigating work, relationships, purpose, mental health, or simply trying to feel a little less alone in whatever you're going through.

While I will make a commitment to you that I'll regularly be writing again, I won't be publishing because an algorithm wants me to. I'll be writing because I have something worth saying and hopefully something worth hearing.

Plus, there's one more reason I wanted to relaunch the site. For years, I've been working on a book called The Unofficial Guide to Being an Adult. It started as an idea, got written chapter by chapter until the rough version was done, and now finally feels closer than ever to becoming something real as I revisit it with fresh eyes and a fresh perspective.

This blog is where that journey continues. I'll be focused on finally publishing the book as an expanded format of the essays you'll find here in an attempt to expand on the tools, learnings, and overall experiences I've been through. I try to keep my essays on here fairly digestible, but life's lessons can't always be cleanly navigated in 1,000 words or fewer, and that's where the book comes in. Plus, I have so much more to write about at this point, I need to move on to the sequel eventually :)

Regardless of all the new changes, I do want to reiterate that my core premise stays the same:

None of us has the official guide.

We're all just writing our own.

That's always been the point.

Appreciate you being here, whether you've been reading since 2014 or this is your first time.