The Unofficial Guide to Being an Adult

Boundaries

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How to Support Someone Who Is Unemployed: What Helps vs. What Hurts

7 months. That's how long the third stint of my unemployment journey is lasting at the moment. I've been grateful to finally dip my toe into consulting, but so far these have been temporary opportunities, and I'm still y

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February 12, 2024Dating & Heartbreak8 min read

Healthy Relationships

I reflect on my relationship experiences and share insights from my one-year anniversary with my girlfriend. I discuss the importance of being oneself in a relationship, the value of…

June 5, 2022Boundaries4 min read

What Are Your Non Negotiables?

I've been quiet on here lately... so I figured it was time to do a little writing on a topic that I recently discussed with my therapist a few weeks back. We've been diving into my dating…

January 14, 2021Work, Ambition & Unemployment7 min read

Work-Life Balance.

2020 brought a lot of lessons, with one being the importance of maintaining a proper work-life balance. Those of us who were fortunate enough to keep our jobs during the pandemic also found…

April 17, 2015Boundaries4 min read

A Tricky Concept Called Independence

So I was going to start this post off with the definition of Independence... but it keeps redirecting me back to the word Independent. Let's go with that then, according to Merriam-Webster…

December 15, 2014Dating & Heartbreak3 min read

Relationships

Where to start? I guess we could go chronologically but the fact is and in life, nothing happens in order... there is always a mix of things happening at once. I guess one of the biggest…

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