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February 17, 2022Mental Health & Self-Worth3 min read

Who Validates You?

So I had a mini-breakthrough yesterday after chatting with a friend of mine in the morning... I am constantly seeking external validation. The context of the…

February 16, 2021Mental Health & Self-Worth6 min read

Being Honest With Ourselves

I've been thinking about this question for a little while now... so let me ask: why is it so hard for us to be honest with ourselves about what we want? A lot of us lie…

April 16, 2018Mental Health & Self-Worth10 min read

28 Years of Anger - The Journey So Far

I’ve wanted to reflect on some events both recent and not so recent that I have gone through.... with this, I’m hoping that anybody else going through similar emotions…

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